BDSM Safety Guides

I thought this would be a good place to post some very useful information for anyone new to the BDSM scene or just needing to do some research!

Safety should always be first priority for any and all people participating in a scene.

(I’ll add links and topics to this list as I find them)

Summertime!

It’s been so long since I’ve written a regular old blog post. I don’t have much to say apart from that I have been working hard to make awesome porn this summer! Also, if you requested a custom in the past month or two, I am working on a huge backlog, so no worries, I will get to it eventually.

Hope you are having as awesome a summer as I am! (despite burning like a lobster!) Next post, back to our regularly scheduled perverted programming.

PS: Want to request a fetish or sex topic for my blog? Send it on in or comment below.

xo,
MJ

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Armpit Fetish

I’m pretty sure everyone smells their own armpits sometimes.

Find my armpit fetish videos here!

What is it?

An armpit fetish is generally a body part fetish, but can also involve the look, smell, hair, or symbolism of the underarm (it kinda looks like a pussy. kinda.) You might practice this fetish by looking at, touching, smelling, tasting or putting your genitals in armpits.

Did you know that:

  • during menstruation, armpit odour may become stronger
  • poets have written about the sexual attractiveness of the feminine armpit
  • the odor of the armpit is a very powerful smell- enough to act as a muscular stimulant and energy boost when sniffed.
  • “seawater, sweet, salty, chlorinated urine”, and “overripe peaches” have all been used to describe the unique smell and taste of armpits
  • for some people, odor can be a factor that determines whether or not a person is attractive, regardless of appearance.
  • armpit worship is a type of BDSM play in which armpits may be sniffed, licked, kissed or used in any other way the dominant sees fit.

I have hairy armpits myself, and I really like them. I don’t have an armpit fetish, but I like the way they feel and I like not shaving or waxing, although I might start removing the hair again at some point.

Related Kinks:

  • long hair/body hair
  • sweat/smells
  • body parts
  • arms and arm hair

Recommended Reading:

http://armpits-fetish.com/

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Armpit_fetishism

http://www.girlpits.com/forums3/

Kristin Stewart has an armpit licking fetish (and other celeb fetishes)

Book: Studies in the Pyschology of Sex – Havelock Ellis (outdated, but still pretty interesting)

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Mouth Fetish

Mouth fetish-you might say it’s an oral fixation.

Find my mouth fetish videos here!

What is it?

A mouth fetish, one of many ‘body part’ type fetishes, involves enjoying any aspects or actions of the mouth. Whether it’s the tongue, lips, throat, teeth or tonsils, you can guarantee that someone loves it. As with many body part fetishes, this one is wide, varied, and can be related to a vast number of different kinks. Someone may enjoy oral sex more than other types of sex, looking at mouths spread open wide, or even dream of being devoured. Mouth fetish can also manifest as an interest in teeth, dentistry, cavities, or afflictions of the mouth (cold sores or cankers, for instance). Whether the mouth is kissing, eating, chewing, spitting, licking or gaping open beautifully, it’s a multi-faceted fetish and one of my very favourites.

Related Kinks:

  • tongue fetish
  • spit fetish
  • toothbrushing
  • teeth fetish
  • blow jobs
  • oral sex
  • cunnilingus
  • voreaphilia/vore
  • macrophilia/giantess
  • eating/chewing
  • coughing
  • smoking
  • biting

Recommended Reading:

Mouth Fetish on Urbandictionary

The Freudian Oral Stage

My Man Has an Oral Fetish

5 Scientific Explanations for Your Sexual Perversions

I Have a Teeth Fetish

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Hand Fetish

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(find my hand fetish videos by clicking here!)

What is a hand fetish?

Hands might not be as popular a fetish as feet are, but they can be just as sexy to those who love them. Some might prefer a specific area of the hand (palm, finger, nail). The size, shape and length of the hand as well as the variations of fingernails, manicures and polish might also be contributing factors to a hand’s attractiveness. One might enjoy the sight of hands, the feeling of them, or just the enjoyment of worshiping them. Others may also enjoy the sight of hands or their own hands doing specific actions (cleaning, polishing fingernails) or wearing specific fetish clothing, (gloves, rings, etc). There are also many bondage ties and/or methods involving the hands, fingers and wrists.

Related Kinks:

  • finger fetish
  • fingernail polish fetish
  • finger brushing
  • glove fetish
  • hand jobs
  • fisting
  • fingering
  • wrist watch fetish
  • wrist jobs

Recommended Reading:

Hand Fetishism on Wikipedia

Female Fingers

From Foot Fetish to Hand Fetish: Hygiene, Class and the New Woman

I Have  a Hand Fetish on Experience Project

Is it Normal to Have a Hand Fetish?

Hand Fetish on Pinterest

Book: Friendly Fetish: A beginner’s guide to kink (Emily Dubberley)

Book: Fetish: Fashion, Sex & Power(Valerie Steele)

 

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Strap-Ons

Find my strap-on videos here!

Strap-ons. One of my favourite kinks. This jack-of-all trades dildo can be many shapes and sizes, and they’re usually worn with straps/a harness, hence the name. They can also be used by any gender or any sexual orientation for a wide variety of sexy purposes, including masturbation, (mutual or solitary), female-to-male or female to female penetrative sex, and oral sex.

You might be interested in strap-ons simply for curiosity’s sake (haha, yeah right, this is the internet.), but what if you want to buy one? The vast variety of things to insert into orifices can be daunting. But don’t be afraid. Have fun, stay safe, and use this guide to help you out if you’re a strap-on beginner.

Strap-On Dildo Guide (Choose Your Weapon)

What you want to do:          What you should buy:

Solo masturbation                Any strap-on with a sturdy,  comfy                                                                 harness. Try different positions.                                                             (thigh/heel harness, etc.)

Mutual masturbation         A ‘strapless’ strap-on.

Girl/girl, guy/guy, or             A strap-on with a sturdy and comfortable guy/girl penetrative             harness with a size and shape both you and
sex.                                                your partner are comfortable with,                                                               and lube. Lots of lube.

BDSM or domination        Gag-style harness, facial harness, chin                                                             harness.

Recommended Reading:    

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ASMR: Braingasms

Click here for ASMR videos!

What is it?

For a New Year’s Eve post, I thought I’d talk to you about ASMR. If you haven’t heard, it’s been very popular in the past few years. It’s not a very well-researched phenomenon, but the basic concept is that ASMR is a very pleasant and relaxing tingling type of feeling that can occur in many parts of the body, but most commonly occurs in the head and scalp. ASMR can be sexual or non-sexual, and may also help induce sleep and a calm state of mind.

How?!

You might refer to ASMR as a braingasm, or even an eargasm. Typical triggers for the feeling are whispering or soft talking (especially by female voices), tapping, clicking, or crinkling. Soft noises seem to trigger more than others, but triggers will vary between individuals.

ASMR has been around since 2007, and has been thriving on Youtube as well as on messageboards and forums. Many free ASMR videos are available online by both female and male performers. Triggers for my own ASMR include: hair brushing, soft whispering, paper crinkling, typing, and pen scratching. Try some soft noises of your own and see if you can feel this strange phenomenon yourself!

Recommended Reading:

TIME: The Internet Gives Me Brain Orgasms and Maybe You Can Get Them Too

Vice: ASMR, The Good Feeling No One Can Explain

Wikipedia: Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response

Why Do Whispering Women Cause Brain Orgasms?

Whisper Community

A Conversation With Heather Feather

ASMR on Reddit

 

Happy Holidays!

First off, my apologies for the drop-off in new content. Hopefully I can start to put up some new fetish posts in the new year. I won’t be taking too long of a break myself, so definitely look for new videos in the next couple of weeks!

I hope you have an amazing and safe holiday and/or break full of kink and good cheer!

xo,

MJ

Tit Worship

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See tit worship videos here!

What is it?

Breast worship, or ‘tit worship’, as it’s informally known, contains elements of body part fetish, BDSM, and most obviously, a fetish for breasts themselves.

Although the breast seems to be ‘worshipped’ by many people already, what we’re talking about specifically here is a specific type of sexual play, most often used in a dominant/submissive relationship.

Why do people like it?

You might already have a breast fetish, or your partner might. You might engage in breast worship to please your dominant, or tantalize your submissive. In short, there are any number of reasons, and just as many definitions of breast worship. It may be intensely pleasurable or painful depending on the individual.

How do you do it?

The main focus is an intense or lengthy amount of attention paid to the breasts alone. Breast worship might include kissing, licking, stroking, fondling, squeezing or sucking breasts and/or nipples. If the person receiving worship enjoys BDSM, any number of methods might be employed during breast worship, including: pinching, bloodletting, pumping, spanking/slapping, piercing and more.

Safety:

Consent, cleanliness (especially with any sharp implements), and courtesy for your partner should be all you need to have a great breast worship experience.

Recommended Reading:

Breast Fetishism on Wikipedia

Breast Worship Stories at Literotica

 

Did I leave something out about your favourite kink or fetish? Let me know in the comments below.

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Erotic Hypnosis and Mental Domination

Find erotic hypnosis and mind control videos here!

No, this isn’t your traditional hypnotist show, but it’s not a modern hypnotherapist’s session, either. I’m talking about something in between the two, erotic hypnosis and mental domination.

What is it?

Though usually this type of hypnosis is done in a BDSM context, it isn’t limited to the dominant and submissive. Many may choose to use hypnosis in a recreational way; for pleasure, relaxation, or domination (among other things).

Why do people like it?

Hypnosis can be a means for mental and physical relaxation or meditation, or a giving up of mental control, which is often extremely therapeutic or pleasurable for people. The act of performing hypnosis on others in a BDSM context might also be a way to display dominance or to persuade a submissive to do your bidding.

What are the variations?

As you can imagine, there are as many variations as there are digits of pi. In general, erotic hypnosis is practiced by dominant partners who love to control their submissives, and submissives who enjoy having their mind and body completely controlled by another. General hypnotherapy techniques are often used with a kinky twist in mind.

The specific technique will vary from person to person, but generally a relaxation or induction is used to get the person into the desired hypnotic state. From there, any number of things can happen, but usually this involves the person being hypnotized being given mental or physical suggestions upon which to act.

Examples:

  • performing humiliating tasks like clucking like a chicken, undressing, doing something unexpected in public, etc.
  • perform a physical task which might otherwise not be possible (face a fear, have a higher pain threshold, participate in play they might otherwise find mentally or physically intimidating)
  • implanting mental suggestions for a subtle but all-encompassing hypnosis of the person throughout their daily life.

How to indulge your hypnosis or mental domination fetish?

Find a consenting party, and go play. Watch some porn. Listen to some binaural beats. Try to hypnotize yourself.

Safety:

Make sure your partner has directly consented to the hypnosis and all activities that may follow.

Recommended Reading:

http://metareddit.com/r/EroticHypnosis

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Recreational_hypnosis

http://voices.yahoo.com/erotic-hypnosis-does-work-151514.html?cat=5

 

Did I leave something out about your favourite kink or fetish? Let me know in the comments below.