Clipgirl/Camgirl Self Care Tips

-Take regular days off to prevent burnout.

-Drink lots of water whenever you can.

-Try to get outside for fresh air and sunlight as much as you can.

-Connect with other SWs to talk about work. Connect with SW-positive friends to talk about work, or anything else. Socializing (although anxiety-inducing as hell for some) is good for your brain. Make plans to do some fun as fuck stuff and do it. Talk online, talk on the phone, talk to your pets, whatever you can handle at the moment that pushes your anxiety a bit.

-Make enough time for your hobbies.

-Time management, schedules, and routines can be great for getting everything done, but should not be a rigid set of rules. If you miss it, mess up, or sleep late, it’s okay.  You have tomorrow to try again.

-Your safety is paramount! Use strong passwords (not the same one for every site). Don’t keep your passwords on your computer. Keep a hard copy (you can also use a password management system). Do whatever you need to do to keep safety a high priority, online and IRL, whether you’re an ‘out’ SW or not.

-If something or someone consistently makes you feel bad, even ‘for no reason’, even if it’s ‘just a hunch’, there’s probably a reason you shouldn’t do that thing/be around that person. Listen to yourself. You’re important.

-consistently remind yourself that you are a magnificent queen.

30 Ways to Reduce/Minimize my Symptoms While Camming

  1. No demands, no pressure, no rudeness. If they’re not paying, ignore or ban. If they are and you don’t want to end the chat yet, hover over the block button in case they pull some stupid shit.
  2. Take the time before each shift to meditate, chill out, gear up, and get into the zone. Get your lights set up, makeup done, music on, whatever it takes for you to feel ready.
  3. Fake it, don’t break it: don’t feel pressured to have a ‘real orgasm’ every time. It’s your show. Have one if you want, fake it if you want. Especially if you’re tired.
  4. No trolls, triggers, intolerance, or insults. Decide when and why you will permaban and use that banhammer whenever you need to, for any reason.
  5. Familiarize yourself with your site’s terms of service for models (if applicable).
  6. You run your room, it doesn’t run you. Never tire yourself out trying to please non-paying assholes.
  7. Don’t be afraid to end a paying session if a boundary is suddenly crossed.
  8. Don’t do C2C or phone.
  9. Don’t use earnings, ratings, hits, paid time, or any other performance indicators to beat yourself up.
  10. Don’t beat yourself up for any reason.
  11. If you get down or it gets slow, try to hang in there for at least 20 minutes. After that, give it a short break and hop on again.
  12. Know your goals for that shift, but also know your limits, and know you won’t always make your goal. Don’t obsess.
  13. Engage, but just enough to know who the paying customers are.
  14. Charge high- your time is valuable.
  15. Not everyone will like you, and that’s perfectly okay.
  16. If you feel a panic attack or flashback coming on, LOG OFF. Immediately. If you get any dissociation or just ‘know’ when worse symptoms are coming, log off and calm down, just in case.
  17. Drink lots of water and get as much sleep as you need to feel rested (7-9 hours). Catch up on sleep debt when/if you can.
  18. Only talk sporadically in free chat. Typing is much less mentally draining.
  19. If free chat makes you anxious, keep an eye on it and engage, but also keep busy to keep yourself calmer (video editing, promotion, or another paid chat site are all good ideas).
  20. If you have a day where you are absolutely too anxious to do free chat but have to work, DON’T DO IT. Do paid-chat only, or make videos, or something else that is still work but won’t burn you out as fast.
  21. Regular schedule and hours = regular custies = regular money.
  25. Schedule time for therapy and getting better
  26. Have a basic show template in mind. Run through the types of shows you want to do beforehand. Know what you will say no to and don’t be afraid to say it.
  27. No is a complete sentence.
  28. You are awesome. Yes, you!
  29. Keep trying, even if you feel like you’ll never get where you want to be.
  30. You will get there in little bits at a time, not all at once.

(Note: these are my own personal symptoms, so YMMV. I haven’t been diagnosed with anything but this is self-help/self care stuff I’m working on putting into practice (for two very specific types of sex work)  to help me prepare for returning to cam in the coming months while I wait for therapy/diagnosis/treatment)

Erotic Spanking

Spanking is one of my favourite things to give and  receive!

Hand, meet ass.

Find my spanking videos by clicking here! (and here!)

What is it?

You’ve probably heard of spanking. It’s usually as a common and ineffective  form of disciplining a child, but in this case we’re talking about disciplining adults. Someone may have a fetish for the act of spanking itself or for spanking as part of a BDSM scene.

Spanking is one of the most common types of play for BDSM beginners, so don’t forget: safety first!


Did you know that:

  • many different implements or tools can be used to spank someone: including, but not limited to: your hands, paddles, canes, crops, hairbrushes, spatulas, and slappers/smackers.
  • representations of erotic spanking made up a large part of Victorian era pornography.
  • celebrities who reportedly enjoy spanking and impact play include: Rihanna, Britney Spears, Jean-Jacques Rousseau, and Sarah Silverman.
  • there are special costumes and even furniture to aid in spanking, such as spanking skirts and spanking benches.
  • spanking in the wrong place can  harm someone. Safety first, always!
  • dopamine, responsible for making us happy, is also produced during spanking!

Spanking is one of my favourite and most satisfying activities. The mental and physical sensations, whether I am on the giving or receiving end, are awesome! Whatever way you practice, happy ass-smacking!

Related Kinks:

  • sadism/masochism
  • domination
  • ass fetish
  • whipping/flagellation

Recommended Reading:


Erotic Spanking

Impact Play

Spanking is Great for Sex — Which is Why it’s Grotesque for Parenting

Spanking Styles

What Makes Sexy Spanking Feel SO Good?

Impact Play Safe Zones and Spanking Tips

The Joy of Spanking

An Intro to Recreational Spanking

BDSM Safety Guides

I thought this would be a good place to post some very useful information for anyone new to the BDSM scene or just needing to do some research!

Safety should always be first priority for any and all people participating in a scene. Check out this quick rundown from Laci Green.

(I’ll add links and topics to this list as I find them)


It’s been so long since I’ve written a regular old blog post. I don’t have much to say apart from that I have been working hard to make awesome porn this summer! Also, if you requested a custom in the past month or two, I am working on a huge backlog, so no worries, I will get to it eventually.

Hope you are having as awesome a summer as I am! (despite burning like a lobster!) Next post, back to our regularly scheduled perverted programming.

PS: Want to request a fetish or sex topic for my blog? Send it on in or comment below.


Armpit Fetish

I’m pretty sure everyone smells their own armpits sometimes.

Find my armpit fetish videos here!

What is it?

An armpit fetish is generally a body part fetish, but can also involve the look, smell, hair, or symbolism of the underarm (it kinda looks like a pussy. kinda.) You might practice this fetish by looking at, touching, smelling, tasting or putting your genitals in armpits.

Did you know that:

  • during menstruation, armpit odour may become stronger
  • poets have written about the sexual attractiveness of the feminine armpit
  • the odor of the armpit is a very powerful smell- enough to act as a muscular stimulant and energy boost when sniffed.
  • “seawater, sweet, salty, chlorinated urine”, and “overripe peaches” have all been used to describe the unique smell and taste of armpits
  • for some people, odor can be a factor that determines whether or not a person is attractive, regardless of appearance.
  • armpit worship is a type of BDSM play in which armpits may be sniffed, licked, kissed or used in any other way the dominant sees fit.

I have hairy armpits myself, and I really like them. I don’t have an armpit fetish, but I like the way they feel and I like not shaving or waxing, although I might start removing the hair again at some point.

Related Kinks:

  • long hair/body hair
  • sweat/smells
  • body parts
  • arms and arm hair

Recommended Reading:

Kristin Stewart has an armpit licking fetish (and other celeb fetishes)

Book: Studies in the Pyschology of Sex – Havelock Ellis (outdated, but still pretty interesting)

Mouth Fetish

Mouth fetish-you might say it’s an oral fixation.

Find my mouth fetish videos here!

What is it?

A mouth fetish, one of many ‘body part’ type fetishes, involves enjoying any aspects or actions of the mouth. Whether it’s the tongue, lips, throat, teeth or tonsils, you can guarantee that someone loves it. As with many body part fetishes, this one is wide, varied, and can be related to a vast number of different kinks. Someone may enjoy oral sex more than other types of sex, looking at mouths spread open wide, or even dream of being devoured. Mouth fetish can also manifest as an interest in teeth, dentistry, cavities, or afflictions of the mouth (cold sores or cankers, for instance). Whether the mouth is kissing, eating, chewing, spitting, licking or gaping open beautifully, it’s a multi-faceted fetish and one of my very favourites.

Related Kinks:

  • tongue fetish
  • spit fetish
  • toothbrushing
  • teeth fetish
  • blow jobs
  • oral sex
  • cunnilingus
  • voreaphilia/vore
  • macrophilia/giantess
  • eating/chewing
  • coughing
  • smoking
  • biting

Recommended Reading:

Mouth Fetish on Urbandictionary

The Freudian Oral Stage

My Man Has an Oral Fetish

5 Scientific Explanations for Your Sexual Perversions

I Have a Teeth Fetish

Hand Fetish


(find my hand fetish videos by clicking here!)

What is a hand fetish?

Hands might not be as popular a fetish as feet are, but they can be just as sexy to those who love them. Some might prefer a specific area of the hand (palm, finger, nail). The size, shape and length of the hand as well as the variations of fingernails, manicures and polish might also be contributing factors to a hand’s attractiveness. One might enjoy the sight of hands, the feeling of them, or just the enjoyment of worshiping them. Others may also enjoy the sight of hands or their own hands doing specific actions (cleaning, polishing fingernails) or wearing specific fetish clothing, (gloves, rings, etc). There are also many bondage ties and/or methods involving the hands, fingers and wrists.

Related Kinks:

  • finger fetish
  • fingernail polish fetish
  • finger brushing
  • glove fetish
  • hand jobs
  • fisting
  • fingering
  • wrist watch fetish
  • wrist jobs

Recommended Reading:

Hand Fetishism on Wikipedia

Female Fingers

From Foot Fetish to Hand Fetish: Hygiene, Class and the New Woman

I Have  a Hand Fetish on Experience Project

Is it Normal to Have a Hand Fetish?

Hand Fetish on Pinterest

Book: Friendly Fetish: A beginner’s guide to kink (Emily Dubberley)

Book: Fetish: Fashion, Sex & Power(Valerie Steele)



Find my strap-on videos here!

Strap-ons. One of my favourite kinks. This jack-of-all trades dildo can be many shapes and sizes, and they’re usually worn with straps/a harness, hence the name. They can also be used by any gender or any sexual orientation for a wide variety of sexy purposes, including masturbation, (mutual or solitary), female-to-male or female to female penetrative sex, and oral sex.

You might be interested in strap-ons simply for curiosity’s sake (haha, yeah right, this is the internet.), but what if you want to buy one? The vast variety of things to insert into orifices can be daunting. But don’t be afraid. Have fun, stay safe, and use this guide to help you out if you’re a strap-on beginner.

Strap-On Dildo Guide (Choose Your Weapon)

What you want to do:          What you should buy:

Solo masturbation                Any strap-on with a sturdy,  comfy                                                                 harness. Try different positions.                                                             (thigh/heel harness, etc.)

Mutual masturbation         A ‘strapless’ strap-on.

Girl/girl, guy/guy, or             A strap-on with a sturdy and comfortable guy/girl penetrative             harness with a size and shape both you and
sex.                                                your partner are comfortable with,                                                               and lube. Lots of lube.

BDSM or domination        Gag-style harness, facial harness, chin                                                             harness.

Recommended Reading:    

ASMR: Braingasms

Click here for ASMR videos!

What is it?

For a New Year’s Eve post, I thought I’d talk to you about ASMR. If you haven’t heard, it’s been very popular in the past few years. It’s not a very well-researched phenomenon, but the basic concept is that ASMR is a very pleasant and relaxing tingling type of feeling that can occur in many parts of the body, but most commonly occurs in the head and scalp. ASMR can be sexual or non-sexual, and may also help induce sleep and a calm state of mind.


You might refer to ASMR as a braingasm, or even an eargasm. Typical triggers for the feeling are whispering or soft talking (especially by female voices), tapping, clicking, or crinkling. Soft noises seem to trigger more than others, but triggers will vary between individuals.

ASMR has been around since 2007, and has been thriving on Youtube as well as on messageboards and forums. Many free ASMR videos are available online by both female and male performers. Triggers for my own ASMR include: hair brushing, soft whispering, paper crinkling, typing, and pen scratching. Try some soft noises of your own and see if you can feel this strange phenomenon yourself!

Recommended Reading:

TIME: The Internet Gives Me Brain Orgasms and Maybe You Can Get Them Too

Vice: ASMR, The Good Feeling No One Can Explain

Wikipedia: Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response

Why Do Whispering Women Cause Brain Orgasms?

Whisper Community

A Conversation With Heather Feather

ASMR on Reddit


Particularly personal and peculiar POV pornography.